It is almost as if some of their mail is sent automatically, like you are on their list and this is the next standard email that is sent out. When you indicate that you’ll be in their area and would like to get together, they can’t meet you. The pictures posted may or may not be the actual person.This is a great test; ask to meet them soon after the introduction. Most people who earn a decent living wish to be wanted for who they are, not for their income. Ask the person to send you a picture of themselves via the mail. Notice the background in the pictures posted online. Does it show a big house, a new boat, or something else that yells wealth?We have posted many articles about being careful as you meet people online.While online dating is an amazing avenue to meet your match, you should be smart in this relatively newer way of finding love.Think about your friendships—do they ask you about your financials? Did the person go to a boat dock and simply stand in front of a great looking boat and have their picture taken? One of the more popular scams is to pretend to be a resident who has either recently moved to the states in the last two years, or who is in the process of moving to the states.Did they ask a realtor to show them an expensive house and then have their picture taken at the house? They get called back to their home country, or South Africa, to do a lucrative job, with either really important people or for a really good commission or a big paycheck. Don’t they have friends or family that could help them out if the situation was true?You’re putting yourself out there in front of millions of people, and you’re never really 100% sure if you’ll have success with it or not.
Don’t fall for whatever their reason is to write to them directly prior to meeting them in person. They don’t answer the questions asked in your emails. Another indication that something problematic is going on is when there is distance between where you both live — and they aren’t advocating a meeting.
I thought this post from author Sharon Lynn Wyeth was very thorough – and wanted to share it. Scammers often are not specific in what they are looking for in a mate.