Unless he proves otherwise, you know better than to waste your time.
If a guy flakes on one date, he's pretty much dead to you. That phase where you only liked guys who treated you like shit? Not without waking up the following morning feeling like you got hit by a truck, anyway. Men in their mid-thirties become viable dating prospects.
I nannied for a year and went from “STEAL ALL THE BABIES” to “oh hey, maybe I’ll have babies one day.” I feel calmer, happier, more relaxed.
Youth center, Big Brother/Big Sister program, or coaching are all SO much fun.
She's dated enough guys just for fun — because she knows it will be a good story to tell her friends over margaritas or because the guy was just hot — and is now in the phase where she wants something more than a guy who won't text her back for 16 hours. ), and not when she's first trying to get to know somebody. She's had her early 20s to make mistakes and learn valuable lessons, and now she feels more confident than ever in her choices. She's not going to Coachella and getting wasted or trying drugs. She's had enough practice in her past relationships to know what effective communication is. She's bought some real furniture and wants to be with someone who sleeps on a mattress on a bed frame instead of the floor. So if she shows up to dinner in "fancy" designer sweatpants, heels, and a cool top, don't question her, just go with it.
She wants to be taken to a place where she can actually hear what you're saying and the floors aren't sticky. So if she has one drink and wants to go home, don't push her to go back to your place. She's not going to just eat a salad on your first date. She likes staying home on Friday and Saturday nights sometimes. So if you do recreational drugs, you can keep it moving because she does have time for that. She has a real job and a 401(k), and she's not interested in footing the bill for you. So, she'll tell you what she wants and what pissed her off, and she'll call you when she wants to talk to you instead of waiting for you to text her back. Even if her outfit isn't your style, she's probably making you look good and she knows likes it, which is all that matters to her. She has hobbies she wants you to try, like horseback riding or cross country running, and she wants you to try them with her.
Because all that really means is you'll have to go to all his shows (see #1). Guys in their early twenties start seeming like teenagers to you.
She's an independent woman in a way that only comes with age. She's taken the time to weed out the toxic, destructive ones who make her feel bad. She's past that phase in her life where she blew them off for parties. She saves money for cool trips and wants to travel the world with you before she has kids. You don't have the energy to actually go to bars and meet new people.