But, reservations aside, Susan fell for completely for Shaun. He just said ‘I fancy you do you wanna go for a drink or something’, so I said ‘yeah I fancy you as well’ and then went for drinks.Then he was like ‘what do you want to do because I know you are connected with another relationship.We tend to portray older men as more romantic, wiser and kinder.Obviously, this is completely flawed because age doesn’t always prevent you from being a terrible person but, as dating apps take over and millennial men becoming increasingly hard to pin down because they’re all too busy nurturing their bromances anecdotally at least, it seems that older men who remember the world before Tinder are having their moment.Often, they also had cool mid-century furniture in their flats as opposed to Ikea and would make you a martini if you booty called them after the pub’.Daisy is now married; her husband is 17 years older than her.The mythologising of older men is at once frustrating and intriguing in equal measure: they’re often referred to as ‘silver foxes’ and ‘dad or shags’.An age gap can be good, it can be bad and it can be downright creepy.
Is this what attracted her to him in the first place?
She was, in part, drawn to him because, unlike men her own age, he ‘didn’t behave as though he had endless options on Tinder and [she] was just another drop in the ocean.
Susan thinks there’s definitely an issue with younger men today behaving badly because dating apps and bro culture endorse it.
So, from a personal perspective, it is intriguing’.
Psychologically speaking, however, she says ‘the majority of researchers do believe that the preference for older man can be linked to our fathers.Initially, Susan says, she resisted the idea of dating someone older than her because of the cliché factor. I can’t stand it…that recent thing with Brad Pitt being linked to Ella Purnell, who is 21 and looks exactly like a young Angelina Jolie made me furious.